James 2:15-16, "If a brother or sister is without clothes and lacks daily food, and one of you says to them, 'Go in peace, keep warm, and eat well,' but you don't give them what the body needs, what good is it?" James is making the point that faith without works is dead by showing how good intentions aren't enough to clothe the naked and feed the hungry. Our desires must be backed up by actions if we ever want to convince anyone that we really do desire these things. Similarly, the mere recitation of a creed or doctrinal belief won't be enough to prove that you really believe it... at least not to God. Saving faith invariably produces change and motivates obedience in a Christian.
And so I speak to husbands, because I am one. 
"If your wife is tired or stressed from the pressures of work, keeping the home, or life in general, and one of you says to them, 'Just relax, babe. Remember, what matters is your attitude and not a day's agenda,' but you don't do your part to pitch in and take care of some of the things weighing on her mind, what good is it?"
Can you convince someone by your actions that you want your wife to have rest and be free from anxiety? Can I? Surely we can do better with the command as our guide: "Husbands, love your wives, just as also Christ loved the church and gave Himself for her, to make her holy..." Jesus' good intentions were backed up by the ultimate self-sacrifice, and He is the standard of love we should always strive for as we serve our lovely wives.
YOU are a wonderful example
YOU are a wonderful example of just this. I'll gladly give anyone first-hand accounts if they need ideas on how to put what you just wrote into action.